Showing posts with label persevere. Show all posts
Showing posts with label persevere. Show all posts
Tuesday, 13 March 2018
Friday, 9 March 2018
Do What Is Right, Not What Is Easy
It is so important to do what is right, not what is easy,
when you believe in something, even when the rest of the world seems against
you. Yes, it takes a lot of courage to be in a situation that requires you to
stand 'alone.' But why avoid such a confrontation just to feel safe and never
live a full life.
Where in life do you take the easy or convenient way? Why
don't you do what is right in your heart? What kind of investment are you
making in you? And what would you do if you were not afraid?
You should keep the last question in mind and use it as your
trick for doing the right thing. In life, we must all face the choice between
what is right and what is easy. But the decision to say yes to a comfort zone
and no to getting outside the box affects you more than you can think. It
becomes an unconscious and automatic reason to continue behaviors you want to
change.
But no matter how frightening, you should know that it is
always worth it to do the right thing! There is only one problem with doing
what is right; it is often not easy. In fact, it can be challenging. And the
truth is that countless of times, we avoid doing the right thing because it is
uncomfortable or so hard. On top of that, we might get rejected and even hated
for it. Yet, that is what makes the difference between being a lion or a sheep.
"Life has a way of testing a person's will, either by
having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once."
- Paulo C.
our Choice: Right or Easy
But in your everyday life, you are persistently in positions
that require you to make choices. Some are nearly automatic while others may
need more thought on your part. You can do what is easy first, but then your
life will become difficult. However, if you do what is right and hard first, one
day your life will get easier.
When you think back on your life, there are times that you
made easy or convenient choices, which allowed you to be just an ordinary
person. But in truth, when you make such decisions, you find afterward that
life sucks. You feel empty, alone, and even cynical. And you often end up
having regrets or to start all over again.
So instead, you should look at the circumstances that you
want, and if you cannot find them, create them. Go out there into the world and
make it happen. It is what I am doing right now. And always remind yourself
that you have greatness within you.
"The right way is not always the popular and easy way.
Standing for what is right when it is unpopular is a true test of moral
character." - Margaret C.S.
Doing What Is Hard
And yes, doing the right thing is never easy. If it were,
all of us would do it, and we would live in a perfect world. Sadly, it is not
the case. Therefore, I take my hat off to anyone who tries to do the right
thing and attempts to make a difference by doing what is hard.
So, do not base your future on where you are now or on your
circumstances, but rather understand that it won't stay that way and that one
day, it will all come to pass. What is possible for any successful person is
also possible for you. It is only a matter of the heart!
As a result, these hard but right moments will help you feel
victorious in life. It is not easy, but it will show that you encouraged
yourself to make decisions to enlarge your comfort zone to a new and more
significant level. And these are the moments that provide you with great reward
and allow you to feel that you are on the right path.
Do What Is Right
So, how much time do you work on your dreams each day? In
the last 90 days, how many books did you read? In the previous year, what new
skill or knowledge have you applied to your life? If I ask, it is because if
you want to go to where you want to be, you have to do what is right, and not
what is easy. You have to lay one brick at a time, even when you do not feel
like it.
As you do it, you might feel like the choice is quite
difficult. It may be something which pushes you to reach beyond your current
ability and confidence. But you need to feel motivated because it will affect
your life and the lives of those you love and care for, often for the better.
If you are truthful with yourself, you know you had the
experience of doing what is easy at times in life. It takes courage to do what
is right and become who you are. But there is nothing greater than knowing what
you want and spending the rest of your natural life going after it.
"Great spirits have always encountered violent
opposition from mediocre minds." - Albert Einstein
Rise Above What Is Easy
So do not be afraid to stand 'alone' and rise above
mediocrity and what others think. Listen to your intuition, and choose to do
what is right. You should never take the easy road, but rather the correct path,
no matter how long you have to travel.
And never be afraid to do what is right, especially if the
well-being of a person or animal is at stake. If you look the other way, you
will inflict deep wounds on your soul and live with regrets for the rest of your
life. But when you stand up for what you believe in and uphold the truth, you
can walk away without remorse, regardless of the outcome.
"People of character do the right thing even if no one
else does, not because they think it will change the world, but because they
refuse to be changed by the world." - Michael Josephson
Tips to Do What Is Right, Not What Is Easy
Nothing happens without some struggle, so look beyond
instant gratification and see the big picture. Remember that everything you do
today affects who you become tomorrow. Here are some tips to do what is right
instead of what is easy.
Have a traditional 'To Do' list but also a 'To Stop' list
which pinpoints what habit you want to break and then commit to replacing it by
doing the right thing.
Think about what you would say if you were not afraid.
Consider what would make you proud of yourself. It might sound strange at
first, but it helps you get over the difficulties you encounter.
Choose what type of person you want to be. Learn to say no to
the crowd and what is easy. People may still tempt you at times but stand your
ground. Remind yourself that such behaviors are not made by the type of person
you want to become.
Push yourself to take the first step or take a risk. Instead
of over thinking how a situation might play out, be bold and make the first
move. Once you do, the wheels are in motion. Often, it is not the smartest who
wins, but the most daring.
Know why you are doing it. Have a purpose. Realize your
'Why.' Why do you want to lose weight? Create a business? Become successful?
Then the how will follow.
"When you do the right things in the right way, you
have nothing to lose because you have nothing to fear." - Zig Z.
Those are some of the tips that can help if you struggle
with inspiration to do what is right instead of what is easy. I cannot promise
you that it won't feel uncomfortable or painful. But when looking back, you can
be proud you stood up for what you believed in, instead of following the crowd.
And that is the 'all' point!
Tuesday, 20 February 2018
There Is An Opportunity In Every Difficulty
It is never easy to believe that there is an opportunity in
every difficulty. We all love to stay away from problems and lead a comfortable
existence without hassles. These hard times can bring out the worst and best in
us. Yet, such fear at our door may be a great motivation to create a stronger
life.
Have you ever thought about changing the way you view
things? How can you react differently to such situations? Do you become
emotional during difficult circumstances? What can you do?
Whether it is in business or life, it is always easier to
say "I can't" when difficulty arises. But it is the constraints, your
emotions and a lack of ideas that keeps you stuck on a problem. When you can
shift your mindset from a "can't" to "can," then you might
see a problem as a possible opportunity. So, it is a mindset that you can
craft.
"In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity" -
Albert Einstein
The Seed of Opportunity
Therefore, you cannot have success without dealing with
difficulties. Each new experience you have brings with it the seed of
possibility. Even your current problems have within them the prospect of
chances. You must look for the opportunity in every difficulty instead of
seeing the difficulty in every opportunity.
As an alternative, you have to look at your problems as
potential opportunities. Each situation is a great challenge and can be the
best thing that is happening to you. You know very well that when it is dark
enough, you can always see the stars.
So in life, you must reinforce your belief that every
difficulty you encounter presents a hidden opportunity, provided you are
searching for it. I do not know about you, but I am a relatively optimistic person
since I always consider the best result in everything I come across in life.
Difficulty Brings Opportunity
Successful people, high Performers and great athletes are
all optimistic people. They see barriers and troubles as happening 'for them'
and not to them. Do you realize the difference? In this way, they find the
opportunity in every difficulty. And they stay the course committed to their
goals and dreams.
"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity;
an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty" - Winston Churchill.
As you can see, this quote illustrates two different kinds
of personality in people. There are the pessimists who always see flaws and
faults in all things, while there are the optimists who always see definite
possibilities in every situation. It is like looking at a glass of water and
choosing if it is half empty or half full. It shows two different stories and
opposite opinions, but the meaning remains the same.
The Attitude in Difficulty
But again, I think both of these attitudes can be right or
wrong, depending on the circumstances. If a person gets too optimistic, they
might overlook the severe risks involved that may seriously hinder his or her
goals. On the other hand, if someone is too pessimistic, they might miss many
crucial opportunities that would give them a better life.
Therefore, if you know your usual attitude toward things, it
may help you in achieving your goals. It means that, if you are an optimistic
person, you may remind yourself to be aware of potential obstacles. But if you
are a pessimist, you might find it useful to encourage yourself to pursue your
dreams.
So, an opportunity often shows when least expected. The
toughest part is to be aware of it since it is not apparent most of the time.
The best way is to listen to your instincts as I believe it is crucial when you
feel you should take action. Look around at your circumstances. And see what
resources are available to you at the time.
Follow Your Instincts
Therefore, you must learn to follow your instincts. It often
is a feeling that draws you to something which holds the information that will
get you closer to your desire. In life, many times, I felt inspired to go
somewhere or call someone, or even to avoid certain things, or places. Not you?
Then, you need to think about what you want to achieve on a
day-to-day basis. Look at everything as an opportunity. Realize that every
person, place, or event is a chance to bring you closer to your goals. Every
experience you get through makes you stronger and you can use each one to make
you grow.
So, if an experience, situation or event seems unpleasant,
try to learn something from it. I agree; it is not an easy thing to do when you
are emotional. But you cannot go back and change it, so better to look forward
and ahead. It is the only way to grow and develop from a problematic situation.
The Time to Adjust Your Sails
Understand that the harsh experiences you went through can
help others avoid or go through the same thing. You might be able to make a difference
in another person's life. Unless you are on the right path, do not hold on to
the belief that once you take part in something, you have to follow through no
matter what.
And it does not mean that you are a failure or a quitter,
when you go through a tough time, a difficulty, or a struggle. It may show you
it is a time to adjust your sails to get on the right track. The last time I
was in Belgium, I held on to a vision that an opportunity for a better life
could happen. I worked hard, sometime thirty-six hours in a roll, while I slept
in my car, for a couple of hours, in the underground parking.
But then the company closed its doors. I had no job or
opportunity for a year. Eventually, I grew tired of the mentality, the
environment and the discrimination I was facing. Everywhere I went, the door
closed. I did my best to ignore it and continue. But it got to a point where I
had to reassess whether I was happy to still being there and if I was at the
place I should be.
Tough Times Create Opportunity
The truth was that it was not the right place for me. I had
to make a decision. So I went into deep thinking and decided to follow my
instincts to a country unknown to me at the time. When leaving, it felt like a
relief. I had no doubt whatsoever, and I left with a great frame of mind. I
knew I was creating an opportunity for myself.
Today, I have no regrets about leaving that country. Of the
three times, I stayed there; it only brought me disappointment. I had a few
friends there, but they understood my decision. You just need to remember that
there is an opportunity in every difficulty and that difficult roads lead to
beautiful destinations.
So, if you feel stuck or frustrated in some circumstances,
please know that you can leave because it is your life. You have the power to
change it. And you do not have to endure such existence. If an event,
relationship or situation causes you pain or is no longer serving you, do
yourself a favor and get the courage to leave.
The Door of Opportunity Lies in Difficulty
However, reflect on the lessons you get from your
circumstances and learn from it. You are the only one that chooses the meaning
things have in your life. Even if you cannot see it right away, there is an
opportunity and a door out for every situation. You just have to find the
resources around you to help you.
So, do not be afraid to ask for help when you need it. And
if you are experiencing something unpleasant far too long, do not be scared to
leave it behind. There is no harm in doing that. You have to be kind to
yourself before you can ever be kind to someone else.
As you face different challenges and obstacles in life, you
may at times feel powerless. But within those very circumstances lies a door of
opportunity. You may not see it yet, but it is there. Just learn to control
your reactions and emotions.
Be Aware of Thoughts and Words
Remember that your words and thoughts reflect how you feel.
Pay attention to what you are saying and thinking to yourself at those times.
Be aware that you are creating with what you think and say. And be true to
yourself.
So take time to rest, recharge and think well. When in
difficulty, ignore what is going around you and instead turn within yourself.
Ask what you can learn from the situation you are in and relax so that when
things are more transparent, you realize that there is a door or window of
opportunity in every difficulty.
Tuesday, 6 February 2018
When Things Get Slow, Get Unyielding Perseverance
I could do a standard article very easily about motivation
and how to get motivated, but it would sound like total tripe. I am going to do
an article on when existence and life become like a traffic jam and too slow
for patience. I am going to do an article on pushing to the front when things
become jammed. I am going to do an article on situations in life that require
that patience that moves a "giant iron ball" with strength, grits and
more. For in existence and life, there are some goals worth not yielding on,
and your genuine aspirations are one of them. When I think of techniques of
coping, unyielding resolve and perseverance come to mind. Especially as I think
of when life gets "too slow for comfort" at times or "a traffic
jam happens" at an important point in progress.
Today, at times in this day, I understand and feel (in that
order) I am at the point where unyielding resolve and perseverance are needed,
especially when everything seems to be standing still and going nowhere except
for "business as usual".
Listen, let me bring this down a bit. We cannot always have
forward movement in life that flows "right". Sometimes, we all have
those down times where the flow seems to stop, that is when we must become
unyielding and powerful. For within those down times are the best opportunities
for development really when thought about seriously and taken as such
seriously.
Existence is in that vein as good as we let it be. What I
mean by that statement is: We can either perceive the down times as times to
quit or times to develop in genuinely better ways. Me, I prefer not to quit,
but to develop in genuinely better ways. That is the crux point of what this
article is about also: Unyielding perseverance is what genuine progress comes
down to slow and hard or fast and easy. It is not how we are in ease and speedy
development that defines our power, but it is how we are when it is slow and
hard that defines us, really. If everything is going smooth, fast and good, it
is almost always easy to deal. But what defines us is how we use the down times
or times of inconvenience that shows our power or weakness.
I was thinking of a scene from the Bruce Lee movie
"Enter The Dragon" where Bruce Lee sat down to meditate instead of
try to force the issue and fight his way out. Sometimes, traffic jams in life
and stoppages are just like that, we must be all right with it and develop the
power to win over them. Know that the real loss is giving up genuinely, and
that there are more ways to do it. For if it is conceivable rationally in
consciousness, it is possible. What do you think the first and only genuine law
of invention is? In my opinion it is this: Whatever the mind can conceive and
genuinely believe it can achieve. After all flying machines and light bulbs
were considered impossible against the same principle until they were invented,
right? The possible can be conceived, believed and achieved if there is the
resolve and perseverance to genuinely do it.
Thursday, 18 January 2018
Can Self Esteem Be Taught?
Of course it can, in fact we have all, as a society been
taught to believe self esteem is even a thing. Prior to 1980 most people hadn't
even heard of self esteem. The first use of the term can be traced back to 1890
but even then the concept of self esteem didn't really even become an accepted
as a psychological concept until the late 1960's. This came about as the rise
in consumerism and consumption started to put the individual at the centre of
his or her destiny.
A major influence on the self esteem movement was Nathaniel
Brandon who is often credited as the father of the self esteem movement. So if
you're having self esteem issues as you might like to call them, you can blame
him. This was affected by enlightened self interest and radical individualism
espoused by An Rand. Whilst Branden's views may not be what they once were, he
is widely credited with opening the door of self esteem to popular culture.
This occurred sometime around the late 80's as self esteem began to move from
the world of academia into the public consciousness.
Helped along by political types, a member of the California
State Assembly even claiming low self esteem is the cause of drug abuse,
teenage pregnancy and even school underachievement. Seeing boosting self esteem
as a form of social vaccine. All this despite no evidence and many studies
showing evidence to the contrary.
Unlike many fads that come and go, self esteem has hung in
there and become part of the social fabric and popular culture of the western
world. These unsubstantiated and erroneous beliefs about self esteem became
part of the teachings about how we should view ourselves. So effectively much
of our society has been taught to believe in self esteem. It has become reality
based on collective belief and wish instead of evidence or fact.
What can you do? Refuse to rate the self, start by accepting
yourself because you can breathe, and start to notice when you are trying to
rate your entirety. When things go well try being happy stop yourself at that
point if your habit is to start making sweeping generalisations about yourself
as a result. When things don't go well its OK to be unhappy, but rating
yourself because of it is not only unhelpful, it's also incredibly inaccurate.
Learning to accept yourself unconditionally is the best place to be.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9837151
Tuesday, 9 January 2018
Saturday, 16 December 2017
Every Flower Must Grow Through Dirt
Every Flower Must Grow Through Dirt
Why every flower must grow through dirt is a gentle reminder
that nothing worth having comes easy. We may look at beautiful things and
successful people with envy. But if we take a deeper look, it is clear that we
often forget that anything worthwhile had to struggle before rising to beauty
and success.
In life, how many times did you go through an unpleasant
situation? Did you ever think or ask yourself if it would ever end? Why is
adversity occurring in life? What is the meaning of it all?
The message conveys that seeing a beautiful thing,
successful person, or even exceptional circumstance is only the tip of the
iceberg. But instead, as you look underneath the surface, you can see it was
not always a bed of roses to achieve the status they now have.
And that, just like a flower growing through dirt, such
things and people have chosen to fight, rise through and flourish despite the
adversities. It is such a perfect reminder that remarkable things result from
difficult times, struggles and hard work.
Each Flower Must Struggle
What a great feeling to know that there is light at the end
of the tunnel. Just like every flower must grow through dirt, you have to
experience hardships, develop and blossom before reaching glory. It also shows
that no one is entirely immune of living free from suffering and grief. In all
of human history, every single period had its full share of chaos, despair, and
misery.
While your life may take a painful turn, you might be
tempted to ask why it happens to you. Even if it is a typical reaction, you
should instead focus on the solution. Sometimes, it also seems to be no light
through the darkness of the woods.
As a result, you feel alone, abandoned, heartbroken, yet a
flower must grow through dirt and endure the middle of nowhere. You then view
your troubles as misfortunes and bad luck. Pessimism begins to occupy your
mind. You become impatient in trying to get an answer for your predicament. And
you forget that often, patience is also required.
A Flower Must Grow Strong
In nature, flowers that grow up in windy surroundings become
stronger. As storms beat around a young flower bud, forces inside the flower
head and the stem create changes. These forces stimulate the roots to grow
faster and spread farther. Then, it starts to build cell structures that make
the flower more flexible to the burden of the wind.
Therefore, it shows you that you learn, grow and become
stronger as you face and overcome the trials which you have to go through and
pass. You also know that there are times when adversity tests your limits, and
you have no other choice.
On the other hand, these adversities allow you to be a
better version of you. Thus, a flower must grow through dirt to blossom into
something beautiful and glorious. With no adversity in life, there would be no
struggles, and with no difficulties, no glory or success.
The Flower and its Adversities
But why is adversity occurring in life? Well, at times, some
of your choices produce circumstances that generate hard times. At other times,
your decisions or other people create trials for you, which can be painful. And
occasionally, out of control situations cause pain and struggles in your life.
The Flower and Its Choices
There are life choices you make which cause you pain and
sorrow when the costs of those decisions are wrong. Unlike a flower, as you
grow through the adversities you created, it teaches and prevents you from
making similar choices in the future.
So, the dirt you are going through is pushing and giving you
the real desire to climb the hill and change yourself in one way or another. In
the process, it may cost you time, tears, and changes in your habits and
lifestyles. But in the end, it will all be worth it, just like the flower that
blossoms and reaches her beauty.
The Choices Made by Other People
Adversities in your life can also be the cause made by the
choices of other people. It can be challenging to accept and tolerate since you
are not in control of the reason. Sometimes, people around you make poor
choices, and you also pay the consequences.
Therefore, you feel frustrated by the circumstances you find
yourself in. But since you cannot change the choices that other people make,
you can only take some quiet time to think of a solution, and listen to what
you feel you should do. Just like the sun strengthen the flower by helping her
grow through the dirt and lift her burdens.
Out of Control Adversities and the Flower
Why do bad things happen to any of us? Well, there are laws
of physics and natural laws that the flower abides by, and so we do. There are
no choices. It is all based on actions and reactions to uncontrollable
situations.
As a result, the planet we live on follows these laws and it
is often impossible to interfere. And though, just like every flower must grow
through dirt, it does not seem logical at times, the natural order of things
and its ensuing adversities are something you cannot escape.
All you can do is to work on yourself, develop, trust in the
process, have patience, mature, nurture, and become an excellent example for
those around you. Be like the flower that must grow through dirt so that you
can reap its beauty, success, and glory.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9845554
