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Tuesday, 27 February 2018

Impossible Dreams Do Come True

February 27, 2018 0

While some of us still believe that impossible dreams do come true, countless others gave up this right. Over the years, various people tell us to be realistic. Even society says that we all have limits and reaching beyond these limitations is not possible. But I am firmly against that popular belief.


So, how can you overcome your limits? What is being realistic anyway? Can dreams become real?
The thing you must understand is that virtually everything and anything is possible for you to create. If you believe and take the time required to form the necessary skills, whatever you want, do come true. However, you must also collect the essential resources to bring you there.
But the most important elements for impossible dreams to come into existence are the belief in yourself and your abilities to learn. Your beliefs determine your actions which in turn determine your results. So, if you do not believe you can succeed, then you will not reach your visions. Quite simple!

Realistic and Unrealistic

And when people tell you to be realistic, ignore them. In this world, all progress depends on those being unrealistic. The only reference people with limits have is some event or person that achieved something in the past. Those limitations were impossible dreams years before, yet someone realized them.
However, could you imagine what would happen if everyone only tries to achieve what others have already accomplished? I believe the human race would still be at the Stone Age.
So, it is a fact that you and I, all of us are born to brilliance and that success is achievable by anyone. If you read their biographies, most successful people or greatest performers are self-made and not born with a gift. Therefore, the only problem for most people is that, for some reason, they do not believe in themselves enough or for their dreams to come true.

Impossible Dreams Are Possible

If history teaches us anything, it is that when people assumed things are not achievable, some others preserve the impossible dreams alive. Those are the ones who still dreamed, making things possible so that it may come true over time. These pioneers did not listen to anyone who told them to be realistic. If they did, the world today would still be living in caves.
So, regardless of whether society considers it unrealistic, it is the pioneers, the misfits, and the mavericks who make it happen. They are the ones who follow their heart, stand up for an idea and go after it. It is these brave men and women who persistently push the limits of what the world believes possible. As a result, they are the people who end up remembered in history. 
"Dream the impossible because dreams do come true." - Elijah Wood 

All Can Come True

Playing it safe will bring you nowhere; it is only out of fear and ignorance that people do. In some situations, it may be good to do so. But most successful people will also tell you that you have to take some uneasy risks at times.
And so you have to make a choice, with incontestable belief. You need to give your impossible dreams a 'go,' or things will never happen, or even come true. Sometimes you have to take uncalculated risks to have what you want. You need to see it in your mind and work it into your reality.
And yes, life is like the art of drawing without an eraser. But life has lessons that no one teaches you in school. Instead, the education system makes you learn history by memorizing dates or events but never the real lesson.

A Story about Impossible Dreams

In November 1989, I told my mother that I was leaving for an international competition in the USA, but that this time I will not come back. The day after, I left my mother and my grandparents behind me, not knowing what lay ahead. Waving as I went, I saw her cry for me for the first time.
As we landed on the tarmac in New York, I could see, from the window of the plane, the Twin towers standing out in downtown. The horse vaulting competition took place but right after, taking advantage of a window of opportunity, I defected.
Being from the Soviet Union, I did not know anyone in this new country, had no place to stay or even a job to rely on. I only had a city name on a piece of paper and fifty dollars hidden in my pocket. And I did not even speak English. Impossible dreams you say. Yet I felt my gut tell me: hunt your dream!

Taking the Risk

And yes, I guess I was taking a high risk to make things come true, but I had nothing to lose. Instead, I had maybe a lot to gain. I soon took a bus to Atlanta, Georgia, then another one going south of the country. We were a Sunday, 5.30 in the morning, when I arrived at the little Greyhound station in Camden, South Carolina.
Outside in the cold, I said to myself "What should I do now?" So I decided to walk down the long street I was on called 'Fair Street.' As I was looking at the houses, my eyes flashed on a big white one, with two columns in front of it.
I felt my intuition telling me "Maybe you should knock at the door and ask for help." So after a minute of hesitation, following my feelings, I mustered my courage, went to the door and knocked. A girl wearing jeans came down the stairs. I could see her through the small glass windows of the front door where I was standing.

When Things Come True

She did not open the door right away but just asked me what I wanted. I could not speak English, so I got my Russian-English dictionary to find the words I desired to express. After a few minutes, I finally succeeded to make her understand that I wanted a job and a place to live. She seemed not surprised at my request.
Afterwards, the door opened, she let me in the hallway with my suitcase and asked me if I had different clothes to put on. But I could not understand her, so she opened my bag to find a pair of jeans. And when she saw them, she gave them to me saying that I had to wear them.
After changing my clothes, she told me to follow her. She asked me the line of work I was in. I said to her that I worked with horses and was a rider. Her face lit and explained to me that she was a horse farm manager. Suddenly, it all made sense. Impossible dreams do come true! I was at the right place at the right time.

A Life Changing Opportunity

We got in her car and during the ride to the horse farm where she worked; she tried to speak to me but without real success. Finally we arrived at a horse farm called "Sandy Dubose Farm." It was a very big and beautiful place where horses grew for horse racing.
My new friend named Mary Smith told me to wait. Then she left to talk to the owner to see if she could get me a job. She came back after fifteen minutes later, announcing to me that I was hired as an exercise boy, a morning jockey if you will. My work was to ride and train horses each morning.
The Horse farm owner loved European horse riders and was glad to have me on her team. My impossible dreams had led me to a life-changing opportunity. Yet, there was more to come. Mary told me that after work, we would look for a place to live, and she had a good idea of where.

Impossible Dreams Do Come True

The house where Mary was living in on Fair Street divided into four apartments. She lived on the second floor but there was no room for me as it was too small. But that across the hall from her lived another girl, Bridget. And as she had a two bedrooms apartment, she maybe needed a roommate to share the rent with her.
So we finished my first day at work, the horses being cleaned and fed, we went to another horse farm. It was where the other girl worked. We found her riding. Bridget was a pretty blonde with green eyes. After telling her my story, Mary asked her if she was interested in having a roommate, and she agreed.
And that is how, in a few hours' time, I got a job and a place to live in the United States. So never give up on your dreams because impossible dreams do come true if you want them hard enough.

You Can Do Anything

People often forget that life gives them countless of possibilities and choices. They are too busy in their day-to-day routine that they lose sight of what they can do if they put their minds to it. Understand that a vegetable seed has no other choice than to become a vegetable. Its fate is locked into that one reality. But you have infinite potential at your disposal. You can do anything you want.
 Think any thought you desire.
Change careers.
Learn any language.
Travel to any country.
Learn any craft or skill.
Start any business.
Begin any project.
So, do not be afraid to have impossible dreams others think are unimaginable. Start working towards them. Be crazy in your dreams. Plan when you can. But remember that you have to take risks when you can't. To discover your true limits and what can come true, you do need to challenge your own beliefs about what is real or not. 

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Thursday, 22 February 2018

What Do Time and Rivers Have in Common?

February 22, 2018 0

Flow is what time and rivers have in common.

Flow has such a gentle, inviting sound, doesn't it? It's always there and it's something you relax into. You can count on flow.

When you let go and relax into it, the flow will carry you.

So why do we struggle so with flow -- most especially when it comes to time?

Flow can't be forced.

The following passage from the Talmud is one that has always fascinated me. 

Who forces time is pushed back by time; who yields to time finds time on his side. 

I find this passage particularly interesting given the emphasis on efficiency and productivity in our 24/7, always plugged-in, always busy world.

So, what do you make of it?

For one thing, I'd say that this snippet clarifies the power dynamic between time and humankind. No matter what we do, time flows. Fighting it really offers no hope of success.

Watching the River

If you think of time as a river, the metaphor from the Talmud is clearer. A river is a steady and powerful force. You hardly notice the current most days, but it' there, moving all the time.

And trying to push back against a river is futile. The flow of the river's water simply carries everything along with it.

It's the same with time.

Time and the River

Living in time, we are always in that flow. There is no denying or escaping that fact.

The clock ticks, the calendar pages turn, time moves constantly. And that flow will carry us if we relax and let it.

But what if we don't want to be carried?

Fighting the flow...

Have you ever tried to stand up and hold your footing in a flood cresting river? Your feet slip as the deluge pushes your body back with all the power and weight of the river.

You might be able to hold your own momentarily - but eventually, inevitably, the effort will exhaust you and you'll be swept along, seemingly even faster than before.

Time and the river - these are just not things that you can force.

Going with the flow...

Meanwhile, imagine yourself floating on a tube down a river on a warm, sunny, late summer afternoon. The water is moving along slowly and you're moving along with it, enjoying the scenery.

What a different feeling that is. Rather than fighting the river, you use its power, letting it carry you effortlessly.

Does this metaphor resonate for you? Try not fighting time today.

So, try not fighting time today. Let it carry you, as you plan your day, prioritize, make time choices, and appreciate each moment.

Let's explore time together...

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Tuesday, 20 February 2018

There Is An Opportunity In Every Difficulty

February 20, 2018 0
It is never easy to believe that there is an opportunity in every difficulty. We all love to stay away from problems and lead a comfortable existence without hassles. These hard times can bring out the worst and best in us. Yet, such fear at our door may be a great motivation to create a stronger life. 

Have you ever thought about changing the way you view things? How can you react differently to such situations? Do you become emotional during difficult circumstances? What can you do?

Whether it is in business or life, it is always easier to say "I can't" when difficulty arises. But it is the constraints, your emotions and a lack of ideas that keeps you stuck on a problem. When you can shift your mindset from a "can't" to "can," then you might see a problem as a possible opportunity. So, it is a mindset that you can craft. 

"In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity" - Albert Einstein 

The Seed of Opportunity

Therefore, you cannot have success without dealing with difficulties. Each new experience you have brings with it the seed of possibility. Even your current problems have within them the prospect of chances. You must look for the opportunity in every difficulty instead of seeing the difficulty in every opportunity.

As an alternative, you have to look at your problems as potential opportunities. Each situation is a great challenge and can be the best thing that is happening to you. You know very well that when it is dark enough, you can always see the stars.

So in life, you must reinforce your belief that every difficulty you encounter presents a hidden opportunity, provided you are searching for it. I do not know about you, but I am a relatively optimistic person since I always consider the best result in everything I come across in life.

Difficulty Brings Opportunity


Successful people, high Performers and great athletes are all optimistic people. They see barriers and troubles as happening 'for them' and not to them. Do you realize the difference? In this way, they find the opportunity in every difficulty. And they stay the course committed to their goals and dreams. 

"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty" - Winston Churchill.

 As you can see, this quote illustrates two different kinds of personality in people. There are the pessimists who always see flaws and faults in all things, while there are the optimists who always see definite possibilities in every situation. It is like looking at a glass of water and choosing if it is half empty or half full. It shows two different stories and opposite opinions, but the meaning remains the same.

The Attitude in Difficulty


But again, I think both of these attitudes can be right or wrong, depending on the circumstances. If a person gets too optimistic, they might overlook the severe risks involved that may seriously hinder his or her goals. On the other hand, if someone is too pessimistic, they might miss many crucial opportunities that would give them a better life.

Therefore, if you know your usual attitude toward things, it may help you in achieving your goals. It means that, if you are an optimistic person, you may remind yourself to be aware of potential obstacles. But if you are a pessimist, you might find it useful to encourage yourself to pursue your dreams.

So, an opportunity often shows when least expected. The toughest part is to be aware of it since it is not apparent most of the time. The best way is to listen to your instincts as I believe it is crucial when you feel you should take action. Look around at your circumstances. And see what resources are available to you at the time.

Follow Your Instincts


Therefore, you must learn to follow your instincts. It often is a feeling that draws you to something which holds the information that will get you closer to your desire. In life, many times, I felt inspired to go somewhere or call someone, or even to avoid certain things, or places. Not you?

Then, you need to think about what you want to achieve on a day-to-day basis. Look at everything as an opportunity. Realize that every person, place, or event is a chance to bring you closer to your goals. Every experience you get through makes you stronger and you can use each one to make you grow.

So, if an experience, situation or event seems unpleasant, try to learn something from it. I agree; it is not an easy thing to do when you are emotional. But you cannot go back and change it, so better to look forward and ahead. It is the only way to grow and develop from a problematic situation.

The Time to Adjust Your Sails


Understand that the harsh experiences you went through can help others avoid or go through the same thing. You might be able to make a difference in another person's life. Unless you are on the right path, do not hold on to the belief that once you take part in something, you have to follow through no matter what.

And it does not mean that you are a failure or a quitter, when you go through a tough time, a difficulty, or a struggle. It may show you it is a time to adjust your sails to get on the right track. The last time I was in Belgium, I held on to a vision that an opportunity for a better life could happen. I worked hard, sometime thirty-six hours in a roll, while I slept in my car, for a couple of hours, in the underground parking.

But then the company closed its doors. I had no job or opportunity for a year. Eventually, I grew tired of the mentality, the environment and the discrimination I was facing. Everywhere I went, the door closed. I did my best to ignore it and continue. But it got to a point where I had to reassess whether I was happy to still being there and if I was at the place I should be.

Tough Times Create Opportunity


The truth was that it was not the right place for me. I had to make a decision. So I went into deep thinking and decided to follow my instincts to a country unknown to me at the time. When leaving, it felt like a relief. I had no doubt whatsoever, and I left with a great frame of mind. I knew I was creating an opportunity for myself.

Today, I have no regrets about leaving that country. Of the three times, I stayed there; it only brought me disappointment. I had a few friends there, but they understood my decision. You just need to remember that there is an opportunity in every difficulty and that difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations.

So, if you feel stuck or frustrated in some circumstances, please know that you can leave because it is your life. You have the power to change it. And you do not have to endure such existence. If an event, relationship or situation causes you pain or is no longer serving you, do yourself a favor and get the courage to leave.

The Door of Opportunity Lies in Difficulty


However, reflect on the lessons you get from your circumstances and learn from it. You are the only one that chooses the meaning things have in your life. Even if you cannot see it right away, there is an opportunity and a door out for every situation. You just have to find the resources around you to help you.

So, do not be afraid to ask for help when you need it. And if you are experiencing something unpleasant far too long, do not be scared to leave it behind. There is no harm in doing that. You have to be kind to yourself before you can ever be kind to someone else.

As you face different challenges and obstacles in life, you may at times feel powerless. But within those very circumstances lies a door of opportunity. You may not see it yet, but it is there. Just learn to control your reactions and emotions.

Be Aware of Thoughts and Words


Remember that your words and thoughts reflect how you feel. Pay attention to what you are saying and thinking to yourself at those times. Be aware that you are creating with what you think and say. And be true to yourself.

So take time to rest, recharge and think well. When in difficulty, ignore what is going around you and instead turn within yourself. Ask what you can learn from the situation you are in and relax so that when things are more transparent, you realize that there is a door or window of opportunity in every difficulty.

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