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Tuesday, 10 April 2018

Forming a Good Habit Is Like Climbing a Stairway

April 10, 2018 0

To form a good habit is like climbing up a staircase. You place your right foot on to the first step; you press your (right) foot firm on it, while moving on to the next step with your left foot; you place your (left) foot firm on it, while moving on to the third step with your right foot; you place your (right) foot firm on it, while moving on to the forth with your left foot, and this recursive process goes on until you, finally, reach your desired destination, which in this particular instance is a specific and specified floor of a building you would like to reach.
Forming any good habit on a firm footing, making it an integral part of one's life, is just like that. If someone wants to form a good habit, whatsoever, he should and must not try to jump at it all at once. For, by doing so he may never be able to acquire it. Developing the habit slowly and in steps, setting small goals, will slowly, but surely, lead one to that desired habit. Because, forming a good habit becomes much easier when done in several steps over a considerably long period of time. Now, a hypothetical instance of how this method could possibly be applied in practice is in order.
Mr. Smith usually gets up from his bed around seven in the morning. He usually wakes up at around 6:30, and tosses and turns for about half an hour before, finally, getting up from bed. He has always been late for office, and lately his boss Mr. Do Little has been pretty hard on him on this issue. Now, Mr. Smith has finally decided that he must get up from bed at least an hour earlier. In other words, he would like to get up at 6:00 rather than his usual 7:00 in the morning.
Mr. Smith plans to attain this goal in two steps. At the first step, he plans to wake up at 6:00 in the morning and get up at 6:30. He sets his 'alarm clock' according to his wakeup time; each morning, for three months, Mr. Smith wakes up at 6:00 o'clock by its ringing, and gets up at 6:30. Consequentially, he is able to reach office each morning a little earlier than before, making his boss Mr. Do Little a little less upset for his late arrival.
After three months of doing this with success, Mr. Smith plans to wake up at 5:30 in the morning and get up at 6:00. He sets his 'alarm clock' according to his wakeup time. Each morning, for the next three months, Mr. Smith wakes up at 5:30 by the ringing of his alarm clock, and gets up at 6:00. Consequentially, he is able to reach office each morning much earlier than before, in fact at a time he is supposed to reach, leaving Mr. Do Little with absolutely no scope for complaining.
When I was in the USA, working towards my bachelor degree in Economics at Bloomsburg University in Bloomsburg, Pennsylvania, I had no television at my place. I barely watched TV in those days. After getting back to my country of origin, I picked up the habit of too much TV watching. I used to watch TV, day and night. I wanted to give up this bad habit. And how did I do it? I did it in several steps.
First, I restricted TV watching to four hours in the evening; then, to three hours; and finally to only two hours. I persisted along each phase for months until I was comfortable enough with the change, and ready to go on to the next phase.
Eventually I reached the third phase (two hours of TV watching in the evening), along which I was persisting for an indefinite period of time when, all of a sudden my TV was broken-down. Since, by that time I got used to watching TV for only two hours a day, and was actually ready to go on to the fourth and final phase of 'not watching TV at all'; having to go without watching TV at all was not much of a bother.
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Wednesday, 28 March 2018

Failure Is the Condiment

March 28, 2018 0

Many of us have been taught that not achieving immediate pleasure is a need. Failure is life's way of moving us in a different way and actually letting we greet eventually achieving that success we have been endeavouring towards.
Failures have given us a true understanding of self and drove us to attain that success that we envy. Failure is not an end, it is only a beginning. That failure makes us rethink to constructs a new plan, pushing us in a direction we may have not originally planned.
FAILURE IS A BEND IN THE ROAD, NOT THE END OF THE ROAD. LEARN FROM FAILURE AND KEEP MOVING FORWARD - Roy T. Bennett
Victorious personalities relish their past failures because they consider them experiences that added value to their life. And there is nothing better than the feeling of success after years of endurance, struggles, and tribute.
Our failures do not define us, they encourage us. We can accept falling short of a goal but we could never live with ourselves if we gave up trying. Just one line in the sand on the success side of our life is worth all of those hash marks in the failure column. A few dashes of inadequacy and a sprinkling of botched attempts make that main course of success that much tastier! Failure is not the end, with the right mindset; it will catapult your success.
Failure is not the end of the road. In fact it is the beginning of a beautiful journey. Success is neither a cup of tea nor a piece of cake. It is something more than an achievement. Unfortunately many of us give up and do not like to follow the experience of failing. It's impossible to taste success in life without experiencing some kind of failure.
Nobody in this world chooses to fail, but everyone tastes the bitter cup at some point in their lives. It serves as a mirror at each end of our life. It reveals our strengths, weakness, and helps in demonstrating ourselves by strengthening our efforts.
Failure doesn't mean we quit; it means we just need to try harder. It is just an experience or lesson which drives a person to his success until he will not give up.
Failure doesn't mean that everything is over; it means that you have a chance to try something new. It doesn't mean that everything is finished; it implies that you have an opportunity to have a go at something new.
Society doesn't reward defeat, and we won't find many failures documented or written in history books.
Sometimes we don't fail. We try our effort in wrong fields. Our talents are measured in a way that are not meant to be. So it's necessary to know why you failed. Knowing you are judged in a wrong manner you have to change your forte. It's not failure, just a new beginning and this time in the correct turf
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Tuesday, 27 March 2018

Thinking Positive and Self-Confidence

March 27, 2018 0

Self-confidence is an important key to success. It is also one of the major bases of a person's existence and self respect in the society. To become successful you must always adopt a positive attitude. To develop a positive attitude, you must lead an honest and truthful life as well.

Important Tips To Increase Your Self-Confidence:

First of all, shortlist and note down all your fears and weaknesses. Then only you can work out and take appropriate steps to tackle them.
Think Positive, Act Positive and Keep Smiling. This will greatly enhance your personality. Gradually, you will begin meeting new people with the same positive attitude. With increased good energy flowing all around, your self-confidence is bound to increase on its own.
Always remain active and alert in your activities. Gradually, you will start feeling a gush of self-confidence increasing inside you.
Keep yourself updated with the latest happenings, especially which is directly connected with your studies. It could be through the internet, newspapers, different TV channels or maybe through friends and seniors.
All wise, learned and successful people are generally self confident. They always talk very politely, patiently and are good listeners. Start developing such good habits slow and steadily.
Increase your capabilities, though slowly by taking small steps in the beginning so that you can yourself analyse and evaluate your progress. In this way, you will also be able to initiate corrective measures immediately, and avoid any kind of displeasure or discouragement later.
Brisk walking, moderate exercising or aerobics on alternate days or weekends will help you to keep yourself physically and mentally fit. You may choose between the morning and evening timings as per your convenience.
Develop good and friendly contacts with people who are already successful and well respected in the society. Appreciate their hard work, dedication and success wholeheartedly. These are generally nice and humble people. They will guide you and provide all the necessary help to achieve your goals.
Pending works confuse the mind and reduce a lot of self-confidence. Kindly avoid all delays in your works and try to finish them as soon as possible.
Always keep yourself engaged in something or the other. Never ever sit idle or waste your time, efforts and resources in useless activities. All the time that is used constructively encourages and motivates you. Indirectly and gradually, it further increase your courage and self-confidence.
Being good at work is one of the important ingredients of your self-confidence. For this, always keep in mind and give due consideration to all the points, big and small, in any given assignment.
Keep your focus more on self-improvement and developing your abilities instead of getting entangled in problems, worries or tensions coming your way.
Set your goals and targets, somewhat smaller and medium, according to your own capabilities which should seem to be achievable. They should not be according to other people's plans and goals or compete with them in any way.
Be YOURSELF always. You are better than hundreds and thousands of people out there. Each and every person is born unique and has certain qualities of their own which are quite different from others. So, stop comparing yourself with others to avoid developing any kind of inferiority complex. Instead, focus on your strengths and talents, and start improving hour weaknesses. Soon, you would be at par with the most talented, successful and confident people in this world.
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Tuesday, 20 March 2018

When Nothing Goes Right, It's A Sign To Begin Using Your Creative Power

March 20, 2018 0

When you can answer to, where is my life going, by understanding and accepting your creative true power, even when it seems that, nothing goes right, you're opening the door for success in life. By having these ideas of a prosperous life we are able to live positive lives.
If we stay in self-doubt and other wrong-minded ego-based thoughts based on fear, doubt, and judgement and the like, those negative things, our dreams will never ever happen.
Our goals and objectives will be unlikely accomplished.
As individuals seeking a prosperous life, we ought to utilize our talents not only to recover ourselves and those around us, but also humankind as a whole.
Because alignment reinforces our ideas making us understand that we have a full and real potential within us to do more in our life.
You need to confess that words have different meanings and reflections for each individual.
For some abundance and prosperity suggests more cash and wealth while some may see it as success in business or in one's profession.
Naturally answering to, where is my life going, might be in the definition of having a loving household and a caring marital relationship.
It simply goes to reveal that it does not constantly mean material things.
Due to the fact that your creative power of magnificent heart and mind, is most likely one of the things that make you remarkable amongst the other species in the planet.
Yes, I mean we all simply need to tap into this creative power and utilize it so we might be able to meet and even discover a wonderful life of purpose and passion.
What are peace, love and money?
- Such things are energies that we see as truth.
- However such a belief is not pointed in just one instruction.
When your creative power is universal you can use that power to transform exactly what is taking place around you.
Something we have to remember when contemplating, where is my life going, is that there are principles that govern abundance.
Seasons come and go and in spite of everything, we are just unlimited beings. This is why we must strive for the highest excellent and hang on to things that we're passionate about.
When we feel that things are going in a wrong direction, and we're asking, where is my life going, this is the time that we need to reflect if the important things that are considered to be important, hold the same concern as they did before.
This must be surrendered and then changed to a favorable "right-minded" thought process, as the Course in Miracles terms, so we may produce something better if they do not.
In essence, we let go of the old to make space for the brand-new.
I've seen where some people use the idea of Prosperity and Abundance checks to attract more money.
Writing an Abundance Check
- An abundance check is simply a tool that can help you improve any area of your life.
- It can be a powerful idea to write a check of abundance and then let the Universe take care of the rest!
You could write down an amount that you feel comfortable with if you want to give it a shot. It is all about practice and feeling comfortable as you write abundance checks.
Needless to say, if you want more money (assuming you have little or no resistance), it can be useful to write down the exact amount on your abundance check.
If that's all you do.
In a previous session I discussed how to become successful in life fast by aligning to the Law of Manifestation
It was agreed you know you should be writing and creating more if you want to build an audience. You know you should be selling more if you want to make more money.
It is all about practice and feeling comfortable as you write abundance checks.
I know of a woman who practiced a similar approach by writing a letter to the universe, telling the universe what she was out to accomplish and needed help with the necessary resources.
She addressed it to the universe, put a postage stamp on it (with no return address) and put it in the mail box.
Needless to say, if you want more money (assuming you have little or no resistance), it can be useful to write down exactly what you need and then allow for the power of your subconscious to get to work on it.
- The power of the universe is within you!
- The problem is not knowledge.
You either have all the knowledge you need, or can have immediate access to that knowledge when you're mulling over thoughts like; where is my life going?
The Course in Miracles states, "Knowledge can be restored only when you meet its conditions. This is not a bargain made by God, Who makes no bargains."
The magnetic repulsion you feel keeps you from doing what you know you should be doing, already. And in order to win this war against yourself, you must first know your enemy.
Course in Miracles further states, "Knowledge is God's (the Universe) Will. If you are opposing His Will, how can you have knowledge?"
How do you begin this journey?
When you are properly aligned within you, to the core of who you are, you will always 'KNOW' what to do next.
By producing a list of exactly what is essential in your life, examining each one and after that finding out which of these have to go.
It is best to take notice of how you feel about that list and after that only keep what is worth to help you toward your passion.
This is likely the most fundamental part of any level of success in life.
Begin undergoing a 21 day cleansing process on how you think and on how you've been taking action on your objectives and goals if you're really serious.
Beyond that point, you can proceed with your life due to the fact that a prosperous life can be achieved by using your creative power as your guide.
So, what to do next?
When it seems nothing goes right, or you are questioning, where is my life going, look at the thoughts that may need some more cleansing, due to the fact that this is not something you neglect.
Remember, when we feel that nothing goes right, or things are not going our way, this is the time that we should reflect inwardly about, "What to leave in and what to leave out," as suggested in classic hit song, 'Against the Wind.'
Always be reviewing your list of what is important in your life and closely examining each item, and then take action on what you need to do next.
( Please note, I also suggest searching the net for helpful material on how to manifest money now with miracle minded secrets of perhaps, say, a millionaire mindset. Why not?)
To happiness and success in life!
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Monday, 19 March 2018

The Meaning - Jim Carrey

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Friday, 16 March 2018

How To Keep Your Heart In The Driver's Seat Without Letting Your Mind Hijack You

March 16, 2018 0

Develop A Strong Relationship With Your Heart

"What must I do to attain holiness?" said a traveller.
"Follow your heart," said the Master.
That seemed to please the traveller.
Before he left, however, the Master said to him in a whisper: "To follow your heart you are going to need a strong constitution."
The strong constitution Anthony de Mello speaks of is knowing the language of your heart and abiding by its wisdom.
The mind is notorious for leading us astray due to a simple reason: We believe and act out our thoughts. And we're not to blame, because the voices in our head are real.
However, thoughts are fleeting electrical impulses, while the heart's wisdom is true and constant. It is the silent whisper of the soul that speaks without drowning out your thoughts.
"Thoughts are not necessarily facts. Most of the time they're not even close," writes Donald Altman in Clearing Emotional Clutter: Mindfulness Practices for Letting Go of What's Blocking Your Fulfilment.
Many people are unable to make sense of The Language Of The Heart, let alone know it exists. But intuition is real and we're only now beginning to realise how powerful it is when utilised properly.
Whilst I concede there's a long way to go in understanding the heart's inherent capabilities, one thing is for certain; the heart is the centre of all wisdom.
At the HeartMath Institute, research suggests the heart sends more signals to the brain than the brain sends to the heart. Other biological processes known as Heart Rate Coherence represents a dynamic balance within the Autonomic Nervous System, so that positive emotions have a balanced effect on your mind and body.
The key is to develop an intimate relationship with your heart, instead of letting your thoughts steer you in a direction not of your choosing.
Have you noticed how your thoughts can sometimes lead you down a path of self-destruction? You wind up making wrong decisions because you trusted your thoughts were right.
Author Peter Francis Dziuban writes in Simply Notice: Clear Awareness Is the Key To Happiness, Love and Freedom: "If it ever seems as if thoughts are bombarding, sit back and calmly notice."

The Silent Deadly Thoughts

Those who are attuned to the language of their heart note how it speaks in silent whispers instead of drowning out their thoughts. The communication is encouraging and truthful without an agenda. Practices like meditation can help you to become more accustomed to the wisdom of your heart instead of the blaring thoughts in your mind.
Ultimately, it requires down the mental chatter to find peace and contentment within.
The heart is the seat of intuition and creative impulses while the mind is the seat of logic. However, logic is unable to delineate between non-linear dimensions and abstract information, since that is the realm of intuition.
To keep your heart in the driver's seat means to tune in to the silent impulses of the heart. To do this, recognise your intuitive drives and act on them more often instead of dismiss them as insignificant.
The more you engage intuition, the more you will come to appreciate and trust it. Most people rush about their daily lives caught up in their thoughts or consumed by their external surroundings. They rarely take the time to notice what is taking place beneath their thoughts.
"Being in touch with your feelings" is often touted as a good thing, a way to 'be in your heart,' to live a life that balances the thinking part of you with the feeling part," states Jan Frazier in The Freedom of Being: At Ease with What Is.
If you go about your day stimulated by external noise and mental chatter, this is bound to create stress since there's so much your body can handle.
"Paying attention to automatic thoughts is simply a habit we can change. When you shift into awareness-based knowing, automatic thinking moves into the background, and you experience true peace of mind," says psychotherapist and author Loch Kelly.
We must be aware of our thoughts without being invested in them. When I talk about thoughts in this instance, I am referring to the incessant, habitual thoughts that take place in the backdrop of your mind.
These are the silent deadly thoughts that if not attended to can cause emotional and physical problems down the line. For example, you might have an unstable relationship with a co-worker that suddenly spirals out of control. Soon, you are ruminating on ways to sabotage your colleague or trying to avoid them altogether.
You might dwell on the situation more than necessary. After many weeks, the sight of this person causes physiological responses in your body, such as an increased heart rate, sweating or a dull feeling in the pit of your stomach.
This is a case I've seen too often working with clients unable to switch off their thoughts.
Donald Altman offers the following advice for recognising such thoughts: "On the other hand, what if you simply observed the same thought as nothing more than a mental sensation? In other words, suppose you viewed it as no different than a physical sensation - except that it's happening in the mind?"

Develop More Of A Heart Based Awareness

As mentioned earlier, negative and positive thoughts create a physiological response in the body. If you are aware of it, your body will offer clues as to the truthfulness of your thoughts.
Much of the science behind this work was achieved by the late Dr Candace Pert, a neuroscientist and pharmacologist who said: "Your body is your subconscious mind." Meaning, your body communicates messages from your mind in the form of sensations, impulses or pain. If you are attentive to these physical sensations, you are better equipped to direct your thoughts.

So what can you do to stop your thoughts hijacking you?
First, find time for silence. As little as five minutes a day to begin with is a good starting point. You may find initially that your thoughts overwhelm you, however with continued practice this will settle as your mind becomes accustomed to the silence.
Loch Kelly says: "Research showing that meditation reduces stress demonstrates that the stress is not caused by the external situations we usually blame, but is generated instead by the previous location of identity in our thoughts."
Second, if you want to better understand your thoughts, journaling is a valuable exercise to notice the theme that underlies your thinking. The process of journaling helps you to transpose incessant thoughts onto paper instead of them dominating your mind.
So, in the earlier example of the heated exchange between you and your colleague, you might journal how you feel instead of ruminating on those thoughts. You may want to take it a step further and find your own solution to the problem. This way you become your own coach and mentor.
Through these exercises, you develop more heart based awareness and learn to trust your intuitive impulses. The key is to use logic and intuition interchangeably so your life's experiences become a mind-body experience.
So, when an assiduous thought takes place, you notice it before it creates an emotional and physical response in your body. The more you engage in this practice, the less addicted you are to your thoughts.
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Tuesday, 13 March 2018

Celebrities talk, "The Law Of Attraction" (So Inspiring!)

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Monday, 12 March 2018

Tony Robbins 7 Simple Steps to Financial Freedom - Lewis Howes

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Sunday, 11 March 2018

Why The Fear Of Success Is Nonsense - It's The Fear Of Hard Work That Frightens People Most

March 11, 2018 0


Is The Fear Of Success Is Real?

I might risk alienating some people in this article, possibly offending others. However, if it means forcing you to think about the topic differently, I will have done my job to serve you.

Is fear of success real?
Is it possible to have a fear of: wealth, recognition, serving others, playing bigger, impacting humanity and having your work serve a wider audience?
Fear of success, I call nonsense.
I've never heard of someone being diagnosed by therapist with fear of success syndrome, notwithstanding those who experience trauma or some form of PTSD. There is always something else lurking beneath the surface. It requires deeper investigation to uncover what the hidden fears are.
Fear of success is a disguise because it convinces you success is possible.
It is not. It is never within reach.
Even at the last minute, circumstances can change at the drop of a hat.
You can toil away for years and not strike upon success while other people strike it lucky within a few months or years. They will tell you how they followed a specific formula that ensured their success.
There isn't a formula that will ensure success because the term means something different to you and me.
The same formula that worked for them may not work for you and millions of others. That's why online courses that guarantee results seldom work. You need to get close-up with the individual to serve their needs if they want to succeed.
Why would anyone fear the very thing they want so much?
The very thing they put their lives on hold for?
The very thing for which they sacrifice their: health, family and personal relationships?
I get that you can fear the trappings of success if it happens quickly, yet for many this isn't something to worry about because not everyone will experience success like J. K. Rowling.
I don't understand why the fear of success is real. Am I naïve to think that success will be handed to a person overnight if they follow the rules and work hard?
Come on, surely we know by now there is no such thing as an overnight success. Those who are ascribed this label have been toiling away at their skill from many years, maybe even decades.
Success Is Guaranteed To No One
Countless people come to mind who pursued their careers until they achieved success. You can't apply a formula to success because in the hands of the wrong person, success is like handing the lottery to someone with poor money management skills.
I appreciate the idea of replicating your mentors to achieve success. Yet, some people starting out will experience a different result because there are many unknown factors that contribute to success.
For this reason, I believe fear of success is really the fear of hard work. It is what author Steven Pressfield calls resistance that stops many from achieving their finest work. Here resistance holds the individual back from writing the first draft of a book they've been wanting to pen for years.
Resistance stops you sitting down to hone your craft or focus on deliberate practice to fine tuning your motor skills.
Jeff Olson says in The Slight Edge that taking action can be easy or hard, it depends on your outlook: "Here's the problem: every action that is easy to do, is also easy not to do."
A client whom I working with recently shared a photo posted outside her young son's classroom that read: "Why can't I skip my 20 minutes of reading tonight?"
A 'C' student who reads one minute each day, equates to 180 minutes in a school year. This is the equivalent of 8,000 words per year or the 10th percentile on standardised tests.
A 'B' student who reads five minutes each day, equates to 900 minutes in a school year. This is the equivalent of 282,000 words per year or the 50th percentile on standardised tests.
An 'A' student who reads 20 minutes each day equates to 3,600 minutes in a school year. This is the equivalent of 1,800,000 words per year or the 90th percentile on standardised tests.
By the end of sixth-grade an 'A' student will have read the equivalent of 60 whole school days. A 'B' student will have read only 12 school days. Which student would you expect to have a better vocabulary? Which student would you expect to be more successful in school and in life?

Fear of success or fear of hard work you say?

Hard work and persistence is something children are made aware of at a young age, for they are taught that nothing comes easy. It becomes clear as they pass from year to year some of their schoolmates earn lower grades while others excel.
Hard work requires commitment, dedication and perseverance and if you have satisfied all these requirements, there's still no guarantee the pot of gold awaits you.
Hard work is terrifying because it means putting your heart and soul on the line with little or no success guaranteed. It requires discipline, a tenacious will and determination to become a student of knowledge, skill and wisdom
Hard work is not for everyone and only a few become successful because they are willing to dedicate themselves to their skill. They are willing to become the best instead of mediocre skill and talent.
Pursue Excellence And Success Will Follow
The same principle I described earlier to students applies to many other areas such as sports, music and the creative fields. For example, there's no such thing as a child prodigy violinist. Behind every genius is a student who practices 7-8 hours a day with the right mentors and teachers to guide their musical career.
You cannot leave success to chance. It must be nurtured and cultivated and given your undivided attention. You must greet it with humility and respect because like the wind, it can turn at a moment's notice and go in search of someone else who will create the right environment for it to flourish.
"Bear in mind though, that there is a difference between demanding success and just merely wishing for it. You should find out what this difference is, and take advantage of it," writes Napoleon Hill in The Law of Success in Sixteen Lessons.
Success is fickle.
Success is an antagonist.
It will serve you if you oblige it through hard work and labouring away day in day out, month in month out, year in year out. Success is not something to be pursued, but is awarded you as a result of hard work, grit and dedication.
The message is clear according to author Brendon Burchard who writes in High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way: "Be more intentional about who you want to become. Have vision beyond your current circumstances. Imagine your best future self, and start acting like that person today."
If you want success, put in the hard work.
If you want success, pursue excellence.
If you want success, dedicate yourself to your life's task.
If you want success, stop making excuses why it hasn't showed up and do the work to draw it closer to you.
If you want success, stop playing small and create impeccable value for others.
Put their needs first before yours. Serve them in the best way possible without wanting anything in return. Do it for the love of the game. The love of your passion.
If you want success, make a commitment and never give up until your hard work is rewarded for the years of putting your heart and soul on the line.
The hard work will accompany you as you realise your greatest potential and persevere in the face of unwelcoming circumstances.
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Friday, 9 March 2018

Do What Is Right, Not What Is Easy

March 09, 2018 0

It is so important to do what is right, not what is easy, when you believe in something, even when the rest of the world seems against you. Yes, it takes a lot of courage to be in a situation that requires you to stand 'alone.' But why avoid such a confrontation just to feel safe and never live a full life.
 
Where in life do you take the easy or convenient way? Why don't you do what is right in your heart? What kind of investment are you making in you? And what would you do if you were not afraid?
You should keep the last question in mind and use it as your trick for doing the right thing. In life, we must all face the choice between what is right and what is easy. But the decision to say yes to a comfort zone and no to getting outside the box affects you more than you can think. It becomes an unconscious and automatic reason to continue behaviors you want to change.
But no matter how frightening, you should know that it is always worth it to do the right thing! There is only one problem with doing what is right; it is often not easy. In fact, it can be challenging. And the truth is that countless of times, we avoid doing the right thing because it is uncomfortable or so hard. On top of that, we might get rejected and even hated for it. Yet, that is what makes the difference between being a lion or a sheep. 
"Life has a way of testing a person's will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once." - Paulo C.

 our Choice: Right or Easy

But in your everyday life, you are persistently in positions that require you to make choices. Some are nearly automatic while others may need more thought on your part. You can do what is easy first, but then your life will become difficult. However, if you do what is right and hard first, one day your life will get easier.
When you think back on your life, there are times that you made easy or convenient choices, which allowed you to be just an ordinary person. But in truth, when you make such decisions, you find afterward that life sucks. You feel empty, alone, and even cynical. And you often end up having regrets or to start all over again.
So instead, you should look at the circumstances that you want, and if you cannot find them, create them. Go out there into the world and make it happen. It is what I am doing right now. And always remind yourself that you have greatness within you. 
"The right way is not always the popular and easy way. Standing for what is right when it is unpopular is a true test of moral character." - Margaret C.S.

 Doing What Is Hard

And yes, doing the right thing is never easy. If it were, all of us would do it, and we would live in a perfect world. Sadly, it is not the case. Therefore, I take my hat off to anyone who tries to do the right thing and attempts to make a difference by doing what is hard.
So, do not base your future on where you are now or on your circumstances, but rather understand that it won't stay that way and that one day, it will all come to pass. What is possible for any successful person is also possible for you. It is only a matter of the heart!
As a result, these hard but right moments will help you feel victorious in life. It is not easy, but it will show that you encouraged yourself to make decisions to enlarge your comfort zone to a new and more significant level. And these are the moments that provide you with great reward and allow you to feel that you are on the right path.

Do What Is Right

So, how much time do you work on your dreams each day? In the last 90 days, how many books did you read? In the previous year, what new skill or knowledge have you applied to your life? If I ask, it is because if you want to go to where you want to be, you have to do what is right, and not what is easy. You have to lay one brick at a time, even when you do not feel like it.
As you do it, you might feel like the choice is quite difficult. It may be something which pushes you to reach beyond your current ability and confidence. But you need to feel motivated because it will affect your life and the lives of those you love and care for, often for the better.
If you are truthful with yourself, you know you had the experience of doing what is easy at times in life. It takes courage to do what is right and become who you are. But there is nothing greater than knowing what you want and spending the rest of your natural life going after it. 
"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds." - Albert Einstein

 Rise Above What Is Easy

So do not be afraid to stand 'alone' and rise above mediocrity and what others think. Listen to your intuition, and choose to do what is right. You should never take the easy road, but rather the correct path, no matter how long you have to travel.
And never be afraid to do what is right, especially if the well-being of a person or animal is at stake. If you look the other way, you will inflict deep wounds on your soul and live with regrets for the rest of your life. But when you stand up for what you believe in and uphold the truth, you can walk away without remorse, regardless of the outcome. 
"People of character do the right thing even if no one else does, not because they think it will change the world, but because they refuse to be changed by the world." - Michael Josephson

 Tips to Do What Is Right, Not What Is Easy

Nothing happens without some struggle, so look beyond instant gratification and see the big picture. Remember that everything you do today affects who you become tomorrow. Here are some tips to do what is right instead of what is easy.
 Have a traditional 'To Do' list but also a 'To Stop' list which pinpoints what habit you want to break and then commit to replacing it by doing the right thing.
Think about what you would say if you were not afraid. Consider what would make you proud of yourself. It might sound strange at first, but it helps you get over the difficulties you encounter.
Choose what type of person you want to be. Learn to say no to the crowd and what is easy. People may still tempt you at times but stand your ground. Remind yourself that such behaviors are not made by the type of person you want to become.
Push yourself to take the first step or take a risk. Instead of over thinking how a situation might play out, be bold and make the first move. Once you do, the wheels are in motion. Often, it is not the smartest who wins, but the most daring.
Know why you are doing it. Have a purpose. Realize your 'Why.' Why do you want to lose weight? Create a business? Become successful? Then the how will follow.
 "When you do the right things in the right way, you have nothing to lose because you have nothing to fear." - Zig Z.
 Those are some of the tips that can help if you struggle with inspiration to do what is right instead of what is easy. I cannot promise you that it won't feel uncomfortable or painful. But when looking back, you can be proud you stood up for what you believed in, instead of following the crowd. And that is the 'all' point!
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Sunday, 4 March 2018

The Success Cycle - Get out of the Rat Race

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Wednesday, 28 February 2018

What's More Important: Strategy or Intention?

February 28, 2018 0


"However beautiful your strategy, you should occasionally look at the results." - Winston Churchill
Strategy is a means to an end. However, a strategy without a clear vision for what the end game is can lead you to an endless path of doing things that give you no satisfaction. That would be like running in a race without ever knowing where the finish line is. It would be impossible to know if you were running at the correct pace. In your mind, you may think you are winning because you are running at a great pace for the 100-meter dash, except the race is 1 mile. Most likely, your strategy will not take you the distance.
To most, this may sound like common sense. Yet, everyday people take actions without knowing the final outcome they are seeking. As a rule, people ignore the importance of asking themselves what they and others involved want from a situation. People are eternally hopeful that chemistry will magically make it happen; the belief everyone should know.
So let's get this straight. Strategy is a process for achieving the final result. If you do not look up to see where your strategy has gotten you, you may find yourself in a place of unhappiness. Even Charlie Sheen would know that's not "winning."
Get clear about the final outcome you are seeking first. Do so without imposing all the reasons it can't happen. If the outcome you envision is a step to get you somewhere else, you still need to take steps to know the end game. Once you are clear about what you want, your strategy could change dramatically. Even if it doesn't change, still look up to see where you are.
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Tuesday, 27 February 2018

Impossible Dreams Do Come True

February 27, 2018 0

While some of us still believe that impossible dreams do come true, countless others gave up this right. Over the years, various people tell us to be realistic. Even society says that we all have limits and reaching beyond these limitations is not possible. But I am firmly against that popular belief.


So, how can you overcome your limits? What is being realistic anyway? Can dreams become real?
The thing you must understand is that virtually everything and anything is possible for you to create. If you believe and take the time required to form the necessary skills, whatever you want, do come true. However, you must also collect the essential resources to bring you there.
But the most important elements for impossible dreams to come into existence are the belief in yourself and your abilities to learn. Your beliefs determine your actions which in turn determine your results. So, if you do not believe you can succeed, then you will not reach your visions. Quite simple!

Realistic and Unrealistic

And when people tell you to be realistic, ignore them. In this world, all progress depends on those being unrealistic. The only reference people with limits have is some event or person that achieved something in the past. Those limitations were impossible dreams years before, yet someone realized them.
However, could you imagine what would happen if everyone only tries to achieve what others have already accomplished? I believe the human race would still be at the Stone Age.
So, it is a fact that you and I, all of us are born to brilliance and that success is achievable by anyone. If you read their biographies, most successful people or greatest performers are self-made and not born with a gift. Therefore, the only problem for most people is that, for some reason, they do not believe in themselves enough or for their dreams to come true.

Impossible Dreams Are Possible

If history teaches us anything, it is that when people assumed things are not achievable, some others preserve the impossible dreams alive. Those are the ones who still dreamed, making things possible so that it may come true over time. These pioneers did not listen to anyone who told them to be realistic. If they did, the world today would still be living in caves.
So, regardless of whether society considers it unrealistic, it is the pioneers, the misfits, and the mavericks who make it happen. They are the ones who follow their heart, stand up for an idea and go after it. It is these brave men and women who persistently push the limits of what the world believes possible. As a result, they are the people who end up remembered in history. 
"Dream the impossible because dreams do come true." - Elijah Wood 

All Can Come True

Playing it safe will bring you nowhere; it is only out of fear and ignorance that people do. In some situations, it may be good to do so. But most successful people will also tell you that you have to take some uneasy risks at times.
And so you have to make a choice, with incontestable belief. You need to give your impossible dreams a 'go,' or things will never happen, or even come true. Sometimes you have to take uncalculated risks to have what you want. You need to see it in your mind and work it into your reality.
And yes, life is like the art of drawing without an eraser. But life has lessons that no one teaches you in school. Instead, the education system makes you learn history by memorizing dates or events but never the real lesson.

A Story about Impossible Dreams

In November 1989, I told my mother that I was leaving for an international competition in the USA, but that this time I will not come back. The day after, I left my mother and my grandparents behind me, not knowing what lay ahead. Waving as I went, I saw her cry for me for the first time.
As we landed on the tarmac in New York, I could see, from the window of the plane, the Twin towers standing out in downtown. The horse vaulting competition took place but right after, taking advantage of a window of opportunity, I defected.
Being from the Soviet Union, I did not know anyone in this new country, had no place to stay or even a job to rely on. I only had a city name on a piece of paper and fifty dollars hidden in my pocket. And I did not even speak English. Impossible dreams you say. Yet I felt my gut tell me: hunt your dream!

Taking the Risk

And yes, I guess I was taking a high risk to make things come true, but I had nothing to lose. Instead, I had maybe a lot to gain. I soon took a bus to Atlanta, Georgia, then another one going south of the country. We were a Sunday, 5.30 in the morning, when I arrived at the little Greyhound station in Camden, South Carolina.
Outside in the cold, I said to myself "What should I do now?" So I decided to walk down the long street I was on called 'Fair Street.' As I was looking at the houses, my eyes flashed on a big white one, with two columns in front of it.
I felt my intuition telling me "Maybe you should knock at the door and ask for help." So after a minute of hesitation, following my feelings, I mustered my courage, went to the door and knocked. A girl wearing jeans came down the stairs. I could see her through the small glass windows of the front door where I was standing.

When Things Come True

She did not open the door right away but just asked me what I wanted. I could not speak English, so I got my Russian-English dictionary to find the words I desired to express. After a few minutes, I finally succeeded to make her understand that I wanted a job and a place to live. She seemed not surprised at my request.
Afterwards, the door opened, she let me in the hallway with my suitcase and asked me if I had different clothes to put on. But I could not understand her, so she opened my bag to find a pair of jeans. And when she saw them, she gave them to me saying that I had to wear them.
After changing my clothes, she told me to follow her. She asked me the line of work I was in. I said to her that I worked with horses and was a rider. Her face lit and explained to me that she was a horse farm manager. Suddenly, it all made sense. Impossible dreams do come true! I was at the right place at the right time.

A Life Changing Opportunity

We got in her car and during the ride to the horse farm where she worked; she tried to speak to me but without real success. Finally we arrived at a horse farm called "Sandy Dubose Farm." It was a very big and beautiful place where horses grew for horse racing.
My new friend named Mary Smith told me to wait. Then she left to talk to the owner to see if she could get me a job. She came back after fifteen minutes later, announcing to me that I was hired as an exercise boy, a morning jockey if you will. My work was to ride and train horses each morning.
The Horse farm owner loved European horse riders and was glad to have me on her team. My impossible dreams had led me to a life-changing opportunity. Yet, there was more to come. Mary told me that after work, we would look for a place to live, and she had a good idea of where.

Impossible Dreams Do Come True

The house where Mary was living in on Fair Street divided into four apartments. She lived on the second floor but there was no room for me as it was too small. But that across the hall from her lived another girl, Bridget. And as she had a two bedrooms apartment, she maybe needed a roommate to share the rent with her.
So we finished my first day at work, the horses being cleaned and fed, we went to another horse farm. It was where the other girl worked. We found her riding. Bridget was a pretty blonde with green eyes. After telling her my story, Mary asked her if she was interested in having a roommate, and she agreed.
And that is how, in a few hours' time, I got a job and a place to live in the United States. So never give up on your dreams because impossible dreams do come true if you want them hard enough.

You Can Do Anything

People often forget that life gives them countless of possibilities and choices. They are too busy in their day-to-day routine that they lose sight of what they can do if they put their minds to it. Understand that a vegetable seed has no other choice than to become a vegetable. Its fate is locked into that one reality. But you have infinite potential at your disposal. You can do anything you want.
 Think any thought you desire.
Change careers.
Learn any language.
Travel to any country.
Learn any craft or skill.
Start any business.
Begin any project.
So, do not be afraid to have impossible dreams others think are unimaginable. Start working towards them. Be crazy in your dreams. Plan when you can. But remember that you have to take risks when you can't. To discover your true limits and what can come true, you do need to challenge your own beliefs about what is real or not. 
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